Safety Tips

Online meeting safety tips

Always Use Your Best Judgment

IAM App Users are advised to personally responsible, use common sense, and take safety precautions before, during and after embarking on in-person meetings with people you don’t know or you haven’t met in person. Despite appearances and statements made by Users, you are responsible for assessing and judging the character of your dating partners. If something does not feel or seem right, trust your judgment and take appropriate action to maintain your safety.

We don’t screen our Users, inquire into the background of our Users, and attempt to verify information provided by our Users or conduct criminal background checks on our Users.

Ultimately, your online and offline safety is your responsibility and should be your top priority.

Use these tips and common sense practices to help you:

Guard your personal and online access information such as phone number, email and most importantly address.

Never give financial information such as social security number, credit card number or bank information.

Keep these suggested, but non-exclusive, red flags in mind when meeting someone online and during the course of your interactions:

  1. Immediate requests to take the relationship to other digital communication channels, such as email or texting.
  2. Sends you messages containing strange links to third-party websites.
  3. Aggressiveness or insistence on moving faster than you are comfortable going, or encouraging you to compromise your principles.
  4. Indications that the person may not live or work where they have stated.
  5. Request for money, financial information, or assistance with personal transactions.
  6. Engagement in inappropriate questions or actions, or gives vague answers to direct questions.
  7. Requests personal contact information, such as a mailing or work address under the guise of sending flowers or gifts.
  8. Tells inconsistent or grandiose stories.
  9. Makes an inordinate amount of grammar and/or spelling errors.
  10. Constantly blames others for troubles in his or her life, or claims to be recently widowed or divorced.
  11. Vanishes mysteriously from the site, then reappears under a different name.

Before exchanging phone information, make sure you know how to use your phone’s privacy features when you call, like private number blocking.

Perform your own research of background checks. Given that both parties are seeking companionship, consider an agreement to exchange enough information to investigate each other’s backgrounds.

Take your time getting to know your match or date, and try to find out as much as is reasonably possible about your date. Move slowly and pay attention to the reality of your interactions.

We don’t screen our Users, inquire into the background of our Users, attempt to verify information provided by our Users or conduct criminal background checks on our Users, so if you would like more information about someone, we recommend using the Internet and government resources available to everyone. This can include typing the person’s name into a search engine, reviewing public information made available by government offices, or using a paid service to obtain a full background report.

Meeting In-Person

  1. Always meet and stay in a public place and tell a friend or family member about your plans and when you’ll be home.
  2. Arrange to contact a friend when the meeting is over.
  3. Always make sure that you keep your personal affects with you.
  4. If you own a mobile phone, make sure you have it with you.
  5. Keep a clear head and stay sober, monitor the source of drinks, and do not drink or take anything that you are not sure of.
  6. Use your own transportation to and from your early meeting and leave at any time you feel uncomfortable.

Special Tips for Long Distance Meeting:

  1. Never stay in the other person’s home and do not get into a personal vehicle with someone you’ve never met.
  2. Keep your hotel location confidential and keep your family and friends posted.

Consult also the U.S. Federal Trade Commission’s advice to avoid online romance scams available here: